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russianbear wrote:It's a shame you can't cruise around and enjoy riding, chatting together. Use the time to strengthen your relationship, it's a wonderful hobby to share. You're not going pro, so just relax like everyone else said. Your partner is worth more than winning some silly amateur bike race. Perspective.
This one thousand times over.
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jekyll man wrote:Also see if there's any other local girls she can tagalong with, so she can build her confidence as much as anything. Most females I've ridden with have a fear of testosterone fuelled rides, no matter how many people they know on them, and their assurances.
Then ditch your gf and hook up with the pro or semi-pro (or maybe both). If you're both (all) sick, you can skip work, go on a recovery ride together, upload to Strava, and if your bosses complain about the Strava posting, bitch on the internet about how unreasonable they are .Devon wrote:Good call re: finding girls however I only know two female riders and one is pro, the other is a semi-pro XC racer so that throws that one out of the window
Oh I love how cycling forums are more about bitching and attacking people than discussing the topic.
Online forum or not, if you were to use the same language and wording to describe the question of this topic here with people out in the real world they would give you exactly the same responses. The overwhelming majority of responses you have received reflect the selfish, arrogant and patronising approach you appear to have towards rides with your partner. As I have said before, this might not be your intention but it is how everything comes across. I would certainly not talk to my wife the same way you have described things here and it certainly wouldn't motivate her to enjoy a wonderful pastime with me in a way she could enjoy.
In the interest of trying to add something (although everything seems to be falling on deaf ears), I would really recommend MTB rides together. Find a local forest, explore a little, have a picnic/ quick warming coffee from a Thermos, get muddy, lighten up and have some fun... roadies can often have a bad reputation for sucking the fun out of everything and seeing some beautiful countryside rather than powering down a main road could be a way for everyone to have fun and switch off from what you'd normally associate with time on the bike. I'll leave the additional benefits of you both arriving home sweaty and muddy to your own imagination....
Devon wrote:I do know a few people she could maybe ride with but she'll still want to ride with me on weekends. I think it's just a case of me adjusting and getting used to it - something that will come with time. It should also be easier once it warms up a little...
I'm a road rider, I therefore only own a road bike. Neither of us have the means to spend money on a bike that will only be used for a handful of miles a month, that would be absurd. In an ideal world this would work well but unfortunately it's not viable.
Tapeworm wrote:Uh oh. Sounds like a whaaaambulance is needed. Going to be tears soon.
I dare you, try your best.
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xl2w7q ... h-this_fun
Devon wrote:Does anyone have any hints/tips/techniques for making rides like these easier or more enjoyable (for myself)?
The only thing that can change is you attitude to the ride. It isn't a waste its an opportunity to ride with someone you are in a relationship with. Which itself is something to enjoy. My favourite rides are often the canal path rides with my girlfriend. They aren't much faster than 20kph, but I enjoy the conversations and the relaxed pace. Its extra time on the bike and nice to give back considering the times I abandon her for myself and the bike.
tl:dr think of them as great recovery rides for the body and the mind
Anyway, she should be at home with her feet under the sink or knitting, not taking part in a manly sport like bike racing.
Sell her bike and invest the money into some household appliances like a washing machine or something!
Sorry, I think I've been overdoing the testosterone shots...lol.
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