I'm desperately trying to fix my saddle woes. In the middle of last year I decided to just quit cycling from a combination of erectile dysfunction (after some rides it would be near impossible to get an erection, they are noticeable "weaker" etc) and burn out. After a few months I decided to start cycling again and resigned myself to fixing the problem, which has reared its ugly head once again. As a young male (hell, a male period) this is a hugely demoralizing problem. Sorry this is a bit of a novel, but I just don't know what to do anymore.
For reference, I've used the assometer at Trek and Specialized dealers, both showing I'm somewhere in between the 143 and 155mm models. I have always been sized up to the 155's. 29in waist and very flexible (like that matters, Fizik).
I will admit that, in the past, I've probably not given some saddles enough time to form an insightful evaluation, and I am trying to avoid this on my second go-round. In list form, I've tried an Arione (felt too skinny, not a wedge guy, short time on it) - Aliante Versus (too squishy, two attempts just didn't feel right) - Antares Versus (I was impressed with this saddle but felt I was up inside my sit bones, but it was comfy, short time) - Selle something Mantra (didn't work at all). I have also tried the Specialized Toupe and most recently Romin Evo. At first I thought the Toupe was working, small amounts of numbness and a reduction in the ED problem. Over time, it came back just as badly. Somehow, regardless of shape or cut outs I often notice a pressure at the very rear of perineum, and after aggressive rides throughout most of my perineum (even on cutout saddles like the Romin and Toupe).
Recently I've begun to wonder if I'm even sitting on my saddle correctly. I've been told I sit very far back on my saddles (my glutes actually extend off the back somewhat), but this has been in an effort to place my sit bones fully on my saddles at their widest point. In other words, since buying my Toupe I've tried to place all my weight on my sit bones with none spread across actual glutes. As I've read more about the Romin I've seen you supposed to sit "in" rather than "on" it; attempting this felt odd but I could feel some of the pressure spread out. I just couldn't quite find what felt like the proper spot to be in; sometimes I felt like I was seated alright and others I could feel something "popping" over the edge of the saddle as I pedaled. I'm honestly at my wits end, as sitting on the most noticeable protuberance of my sit bones results in ED even though that's what I've been told to do. I'm giving the Romin a bit more time, but am considering giving a Selle SMP a try (sadly there are no dealers at all in my region...).
So, in the end, I have two questions. Does anyone have any generalized advice? I know finding the correct saddle is incredibly personal, but I'd appreciate any anecdotes or help. Second, how exactly do you all sit (or perch) on your saddles? Do you spread out some of your weight across your sit bones and rear, or squarely plant on the sit bones alone? Either way, thanks. Hopefully I can get this worked out.